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Your Marriage Can Be Saved!

Is your marriage in trouble? Are you arguing all the time? Has one or both of you been inappropriately involved with someone else? Are you afraid and worried about your future as a couple? Maybe it’s time for an intervention. Let Marriage & Family Therapist Joe Follette, Jr. help you Stop Arguing and Build a Happy Marriage. He will inspire you to take action to turn your marriage around! He will get you on the path to having a SIZZLE MINDSET so you can renew your marital commitment and restore your trust. Joe wants to help you PUSH THROUGH whatever you are going through right now so your marriage can go the distance. Get started now working on your marriage.

Transforming Marriages

As a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist I have helped hundreds of couples learn how to be happily married. I help couples turn their marriage around especially after affairs and other hurts have threatened to destroy their relationship. Allow me to take you through my marriage coaching program where I will help you heal from the past hurts and establish a new mutually satisfying marriage. I will guide you with Christian values to develop a healthy and happy marriage. As a Black male marriage therapist I am uniquely qualified to speak to the needs of the African American community who are often wary of being stigmatized with mental health problems. Lately I am finding that more and more Blacks are feeling comfortable with counseling. I have a very diverse client base and believe no marriage is beyond repair.

Has an Affair Threatened the Existence of Your Marriage?

I’ve been helping couples recover from affairs, sex and pornography addiction, and severe conflict for over 20 years. Whether you have experienced an affair or are trying to avoid one I can help you work through your issues to achieve a Sizzling Hot Marriage! Yes, You Can Have A Sizzling Hot Marriage Even After An Affair!

My Mission

Strong marriages create strong communities. Too many communities have been torn apart by crumbling marriages. Our children need both of their parents happily living together. This will ensure their proper development into healthy adults able to maintain healthy relationships in the future. The more marriages saved the better our world will be. My mission is help couples who have experienced affairs and high conflict rekindle the flame of love they once felt. Don’t you want a Sizzling Hot Marriage?

According to research done by the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, families and couples who have attended family or couples therapy sessions indicate high levels of patient satisfaction. Over 98 percent of those surveyed reported that they received good or excellent couples therapy, and over 97 percent of those surveyed said they got the help they needed. After working with a marriage or family therapist, 93 percent of patients said they had more effective tools for dealing with their problems. Respondents also reported improved physical health and the ability to function better at work after attending therapy.

How to Recover After Cheating

END THE AFFAIR

How can you work on two relationships at one time? You Can’t! You have to decide what really matters in your life. You have to get out of the fantasy world thinking this other person is the answer to all of what you have been missing in your life. If your marriage sucks you’ve got to stop putting all the blame for that on your spouse. What is the likelihood that your poor relationship skills will show up in your next relationship? Come into reality – you need to fix yourself and stop looking to others for solving your personal problems. Stop blaming your spouse for your bad behaviors. Stop dragging another person into your folly. Stop hurting yourself.

COMMIT TO REBUILDING TRUST

So you have decided you have invested too much into your marriage to just throw it all away. Smart choice! The pain of an affair will dissipate as you rebuild a brand new mutually satisfying relationship. You both must learn how to forgive and acknowledge your contribution to your marital woes. You must learn how to communicate effectively. You must mature emotionally and socially. You must learn to forgive and love yourself. You must be able to love your spouse when they are attacking you. The guilty spouse must be open to living under a magnifying glass to rebuild their credibility with your spouse.

RESOLVE THE UNDERLYING CONFLICT

Affairs never happen in a vacuum. The relationship has to be ripe for an affair. Affairs usually happen when couples have drifted apart over time. Affairs are usually the result of not listening to one another’s pleas for time, attention and sex. Couples get in this condition from unresolved issues. Some of those issues might be past abuse, pornography/sex addiction, low self-esteem, parental divorce, communication issues, etc. To move forward in your marriage you’ve got to resolve these unresolved issues. It’s a long road to recovery after an affair. Make it a successful journey with Lifestyle.

"This program has forced us to learn to communicate better with one another. It has taught us skills that will sustain our relationship for the long haul!"

Ashley W.

"This program has forced us to learn to communicate better with one another. It has taught us skills that will sustain our relationship for the long haul!"

Barry and Shelly

Can My Marriage Get Better?

Many couples ask this question. My answer is always "If you are willing to do the work you can have the relationship you want." In this book I share what it takes to achieve and maintain a happy marriage. This book chronicles how one couple got their sizzle back as they worked through the husband's pornography addiction. Download my book and get started learning how you can turn things around in your marriage.

Get your marriage back to where it used to be!

Nobody gets married to divorce. You don’t have to surrender to defeat. Marriage and Family Therapist Joe Follette can help you bring life back into your marriage.