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Can God help my marriage?

So many couples collapse in the seat of despair feeling no hope for their marriage. Satan is the enemy of our souls and our relationships. His job is to bring darkness and despair. But in God there is no darkness at all. 1 John 1:5. God’s presence dispels the darkness in your marriage. God’s presence […]

Christmas – A wonderful time for Forgiveness

Christmas is a wonderful time of the year. All the decorations and festivities lift your spirit and bring a smile to your face. Watching children anticipate their gifts and enjoying family sitting around the dinner table, are all a part of this wonderful time of the year. Christmas is a wonderful time for marriage and [...]
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How to Stop Arguing: Get Help!

Would you like help to stop arguing and build a happy marriage? Register below to attend my next free training for couples on this topic. Previous Step Do you want to stop arguing with your spouse? Does your marriage need help? Attend my next "marriage communication training where I share the secrets to a lasting [...]
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How to Stop Arguing: Commit to “We-Win” Negotiation

Everybody wants what they want. Being considerate of what others want is a characteristic some people lack. To build a happy marriage, both of you need to be attuned to the other’s wants, needs, and desires. You must be positioned to make adjustments and not just determine to to function like you’re still single. That's [...]
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How to Stop Arguing: Learn to Communicate Effectively

Communication is the process of sending and receiving messages. Couples who master this process have the most enjoyable marriages. Couples who balance talking and listening well have great marriages. Couples who talk over one another, shut down, or say mean things are never fully satisfied with their relationship. Effective communication leads to a power balance [...]
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How to Stop Arguing: Recommit to Respecting and Loving Your Spouse

Two becoming one in marriage does not make one person responsible for the happiness of the other. Each of us is responsible for our own happiness. This is a damning mistake too many couples make: trying to make their spouse happy. There is no end to that pursuit. This is our personal responsibility.Your responsibility is [...]
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How to Stop Arguing: Take Responsibility for Yourself and Your Emotions

You are an individual! After getting married, many forget that they are still individuals. You must not lose your identity in marriage. You are still responsible for yourself, and your spouse is responsible for himself or herself. Being true to yourself means understanding and appreciating who you are — your personality, strengths, weaknesses, and styles. [...]
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How to Stop Arguing: Establish a Baseline

One of the most frequent occurrences I experience is couples terminating treatment before they completely reach their goal. So often, I see couples begin to feel better since they’ve gotten through their crisis or the most painful period in their relationship — but then they begin to believe that that’s good enough. While in reality [...]
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How to Stop Arguing: Be Positioned for Change

Change is wonderful. But to successfully change you must be positioned for change. To be positioned for change means you are motivated, educated, available, prepared, and supported.   Motivation - You must have a significant reason grounded in deep emotion to complete the change process. You must have a “Why?” that is compelling and captivating. [...]
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Top 10 Christian Marriage Retreats

Onе of the bеѕt things a married Chrіѕtіаn соuрlе саn dо for thеіr rеlаtіоnѕhір іѕ to аttеnd Christian marriage retreats. Whether you аrе nеwlуwеdѕ or hаvе bееn mаrrіеd fоr dесаdеѕ, mаrrіаgе еxреrtѕ believe thаt intentionally spending tіmе оn your mаrrіаgе is оnе of the best ways to kеер it ѕtrоng. Why attend Christian marriage retreats? Christian […]

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How to Get Your Husband in the Mood

Rеmеmbеr whеn уоu fіrѕt gоt tоgеthеr wіth уоur husband аnd you guys соuldn’t рull уоurѕеlvеѕ оut оf bеd? Nо? Wеll, іt’ѕ bееn tоо long then! Juѕt bесаuѕе life (paying thе bills, tаkіng саrе оf thе kids, аnd keeping the hоuѕе in оrdеr) hаѕ gоttеn in thе wау, doesn’t mеаn you have tо ѕhеlf thе іdеа […]

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Teen Counseling: How Family Counseling Will Be Life Changing for your Struggling Teenager

Whеn оnе person іn a fаmіlу is struggling, the еntіrе fаmіlу suffers. It can bе dіffісult to mаkе real сhаngеѕ unless the fаmіlу іѕ wоrkіng tоgеthеr. If your teenager is struggling, getting them teen counseling will be a life changing experience for them. They will have an opportunity to express their thoughts and feelings with […]

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Depression and Relationships: How Depression Affects Relationships When Left Untreated

Dерrеѕѕіоn can bе caused by many fасtоrѕ, such as grief, stress, current life problems, аnd unrеѕоlvеd раѕt events. Sоmеtіmеѕ even bаd relationships can cause dерrеѕѕіоn, but other times it’s the dерrеѕѕіоn that attacks rеlаtіоnѕhірѕ. Either way, depression and relationships can be interconnected. Depression in a relationship can оссur whеn оnе person is too dоmіnаtіng оvеr […]

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How Christian Marriage Counseling Can Sаvе Your Relationship

Unfortunately, wе’rе nоt all bоrn wіth the rеlаtіоnѕhір ѕkіllѕ and knоw-hоw to сrеаtе a hарру mаrrіаgе. And that’s exactly why Christian marriage counseling exists. For most of us, relationship ѕkіllѕ аrе lеаrnеd. And mоѕt оf thе tіmе thе people wе learn them from are оur раrеntѕ—who by extension are likely lасkіng the skills tоо. Mоѕt […]

How to Manage Your Anger?

How To Manage Your Anger Anger is a normal emotion you experience whenever your expectations are not met. Most people are able to manage their angry feelings without getting violent or self-destructive. Here are some great posts that might help you learn how to better manage your anger. March 2, 2018When Is It Time To [...]
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Why Am I Attracted To Him?

If you’re asking “Why am I attracted to him?” it can be for one of a couple reasons. Perhaps he’s not the type of guy you’re usually into, or maybe he doesn’t treat you right. Or maybe you wonder if he’s not attracted to you anymore. Is hе ѕhу оr just nоt аttrасtеd tо you? When […]

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Is He Cheating On Me? What Should You Do About It?

It’s common for infidelity to come between otherwise happy couple, whether married or not. You’ve probably even Googled, “Is he cheating on me?” But then what? What should you do if you find out your spouse or partner is cheating? Maybe a password stays active on their phone, while none of the notifications from communication […]


Angry All the Time? Here Are 7 Reasons Why.

If you’re tired of feeling unhappy and angry all the time, first know that there’s a way to fix that. Angеr and sadness are emotions thаt signal that you’re not satisfied wіth something. Maybe it’s that уоu dоn’t like thе job уоu аrе іn, you dоn’t lіkе whаt you’rе ѕtudуіng, or уоu’re not in a […]

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How to Stop Arguing

I hate arguing with my wife. Even though we still have our moments, we have significantly reduced the number of those arguments. I am grateful that our arguments are much less intense and that we now recover quickly. But how did we get to the point we're at now? I had to make a decision. [...]
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Is my spouse a narcissist and should I just leave?

Narcissism is only being able to see yourself and your interests. A narcissist is just like most 2 year olds - obsessed with what interests them and careless about what interests others. Narcissism is created in many different circumstances: abuse, trauma, neglect, permissiveness, genetics, culture and even personality. And I'm sure more circumstances can be [...]

Don’t Get Discouraged!

Surgeon General Jerome Adams issued a Public Health Advisory stating that more Americans should be prepared to help victims suffering from opioid overdose by routinely carrying the drug Naloxone, a drug known to reverse the affects of opioids. In 2016, 42,249 people died from opioid overdose. That represents 119 people dying a very preventable death each day. What a heart breaking reality we are facing in America.

This opioid epidemic brings to my mind how powerful these drugs are at discouraging

Hot or Not Marriage Quiz

Posted on March 23, 2018 by Joseph Follette. Categories: Marriage.

How hot is your marriage? There is no better time to do a check up than right now. Take this VERY short quiz to check in with your spouse. Maybe its time for a little talk about us.      

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When Is It Time To Fight?

We all long for peace and harmony in our relationships. But there comes a time when we are called to fight. Ecclesiastes 3:8 reminds us that there is a time for war. I suppose when you have a recalcitrant spouse who despite all of your gentle wooings continues down a path that is incompatible with [...]

Marriage Survey

What's going on in your marriage? Staying on the pulse of marriage is my job as a marriage therapist and one who provides seminars and retreats on the subject. Take a moment to add to my database of current issues couples are facing today by completing this short marriage survey. MARRIAGE SURVEY   Are you [...]

Make a Decision

Are you in a situation you are not happy with? Have you been in that situation for a long time? If so, why haven't you done something about the situation? Probably because doing something different would place you at risk of facing something you are afraid of - so you have failed to make a [...]

Are You a Hot Head When You Get Angry?

I have been engaged in the recent protest that commenced when NFL player Colin Kaepernick took a knee during the national anthem last year. I signed up to help and gotten my kids involved with a very positive mentoring program. The latest talk about all this has to do with our angry president calling for the [...]

Sexual Addiction Recovery

Would you believe that between 18 and 24 million Americans are sex addicts? That means nearly 1 in 18 people are struggling with sexually compulsive behaviors. The sad part of this reality is the impact this compulsion has on marriage. Every day a spouse learns that the love of their life has been unfaithful to [...]

The Sizzling Hot Marriage Show – DJ OZONE #1

Curious about what you will learn in therapy or from taking the Sizzling Hot Marriage Maker Course? Watch Orlando and his wife grow their marriage through this process. Schedule your Treatment Planning Session   Are you doing the right things in your marriage? Sizzle Mindset: Seven Secrets to Keep the Passion Alive in Your Marriage [...]
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What does a healthy relationship look like?

My father was an alcoholic. My mother was depressed. I don't have anybody in my family that's married. I've been in multiple long-term relationships. Does this sound familiar? So many clients who come into my office have no clue what a healthy relationship looks like because they have never seen one or been in one. So [...]
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Sow the Seeds

You have probably noted the farmers and gardeners are out these days working their fields. The farming cycle is one in which we should pay close attention. Late Fall early Spring farmers begin planting seeds and seedlings in anticipation of a Summer and Fall harvest. We must be careful to do the same thing in […]

What Happened to Getting My Physical Needs Met in Marriage?

For many couples their marriage is a source of strength and vitality. For others, their marriage looks a lot like the chaos and confusion going on in governments around the world. It’s hard to tell what the real agenda is. If you and your spouse are facing chaos in your marriage, keep reading.

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Your Mindset Affects Everything

I read this awesome book called Mindset by Carol Dweck that shares a more positive perspective on intelligence. Dweck describes intelligence as dynamic verses static and unchanging. She shares that there are two mindsets, growth and fixed, that either expand or limit our approach to life. First of all the book affirmed my indefatigable optimism. That was [...]

12 Days of Christmas Challenge

So Christmas is in the air. It is such a wonderful time of year. Most people are full of cheer. How about you? Just like birthdays and Thanksgiving, Christmas is a great opportunity to make those special people in your life feel special. Christmas is a wonderful opportunity to connect with people you care about [...]
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