I’ve heard many people say they have stopped making New Year’s resolutions because it doesn’t make any difference anyway. Well the truth is that it does make a difference. Setting goals makes a difference. Once you set a goal all of your mind wraps around that goal to move yourself toward the goal. The problem is that we have a tendency to either forget our goal or get discouraged along the way. That is why we don’t reach our goals. We don’t see ourselves any differently. Other’s don’t see us differently as well. What other’s see in us makes a BIG difference in what we see in ourselves. That is why we must keep our goals before us and be around people who believe we can reach those goals. Write them down. Clip out a picture from a magazine and put it on the refrigerator, mirror, or dashboard of your car. Find someone who can remind you and keep you accountable. Get some help. A personal coach can go a long ways to getting where you want to be. Keep your goals before the Lord in prayer. If you keep doing these things you will keep working and moving forward. Anything worthwhile is worth working for. Did you think it would be easy?
It is difficult to change the course that you are already on. The decisions you made yesterday have set you on a path either toward or away from your goals. It is easier to do what you are used to doing. Many goals require that you achieve other goals. You can’t become a neurosurgeon without completing High School. If you chose to skip classes in High School it is going to be tough getting into college. If you want to be a millionaire you need to learn how to live within your means. If you are going to reach your weight loss goal you must learn to deny yourself when you are hungry and eschew the comfort of not exercising. But denying ourselves what we are used to having or doing is uncomfortable. If you are willing to be uncomfortable for a little while you will be able to endure the cravings to go back to the way things were long enough to get used to something different. That is why it is a fatal error to get discouraged when you relapse back into the old behaviors you are trying to get away from. You are almost there. Just because you fell back into the old behavior doesn’t mean you should give up or that you are a hopeless case. The fact that you did it differently for a while lets you know that is what you want to be doing. Just get back on the horse and start riding again. You will get to your destination.
Maybe you started out this year with a goal to get fit, get a different job, get a new attitude or improve a relationship. Just because it is difficult and there are many obstacles is no reason to stop trying. Let me encourage you to keep focused on doing the things it will take to reach your goal. Begin to see yourself successful. Identify the two or three new behaviors you need to be doing to successfully reach your goal. Keep a record so you can see how well you are doing. Stay away from people who will discourage you and get around people who are headed in the same direction. Work smarter by arranging your life around the goal you desire to reach. Never give up! Try Fresh Start as a way to keep your goals in front of you. Its never too late to get started. Its OK to start again. Never give up!
Author: Joseph Follette
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