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When Is It Time To Fight?

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We all long for peace and harmony in our relationships. But there comes a time when we are called to fight. Ecclesiastes 3:8 reminds us that there is a time for war. I suppose when you have a recalcitrant spouse who despite all of your gentle wooings continues down a path that is incompatible with marriage – it’s time to fight! When you have a boss who refuses to listen to reason demanding you to do something that is baseless and without principle – it’s time to fight! When you have a neighbor who is threatening your children – it’s time to fight! When you have an in-law who is trying to break up your marriage – it’s time to fight!

While we recognize that we are not wrestling against flesh and blood and that we must use the armour of God (Ephesians 6:11-12), we must, nevertheless, fight from time to time in our lives. The enemy is at work like a roaring lion seeking to devour us (1 Peter 5:8). That means there comes times in our lives when we either have to run or fight the lion that comes attacking us. Just remember to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:14) and use due diligence to fight in a way that doesn’t bring blame upon yourself (Philippians 2:14-15).

Another fact that we must consider when we are fighting for righteousness sake is that God is fighting with us. He promises to protect from every weapon used against us during our fights. (Isaiah 54:17) We can be assured that no matter what we are facing God is with us. (Isaiah 41:10) Don’t allow your enemies intimidation to paralyze you. God says don’t be afraid of them – He has already won the battle. (Jeremiah 1:8; 2 Chronicles 20:15) He will be with you! (Isaiah 43:2) Your enemies should be afraid of you. (Philippians 1:28)

I’m not sure who all this message is for. I just wanted to reiterate that while we desire peace and harmony in our relationships, sometimes we have to fight. Just remember that you belong to God – He is your protector. He is fighting with you and actually the battle is yours because of it. Ultimately the battle belongs to Him. Just be sure you are fighting for the sake of good and not evil. Be sure to use his armour and not your own. And like David when he fought Goliath, remember, no matter how big the enemy with God the victory is yours.


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