This is a frequent question I get from many couples who struggle in their sexual relationship. Climaxing at the same time requires being in sync emotionally and physically. You must know one another’s body and be able to regulate your sexual experience. While simultaneous orgasms are certainly a wonderful experience they indeed are not necessary to enjoy a pleasurable sexual relationship. What is more important, in my opinion, is that both of you actually enjoy an orgasm almost every time you have sex. Many women admit that they have orgasms less than 100% of the time. While it is important for the woman to show the man a good time, women need to not only experience regular orgasms for their own sexual experience but also for the man to feel like he has been successful giving her pleasure. Many women complain that their husbands are only concerned about themselves and may finish too quickly. Women should gently ask their husbands to slow down to ensure they stay focused on bringing her pleasure. That also means that sex needs to be frequent enough for the man to hold out longer. For couples in a long-term relationship, fulfilling sexual experiences keep couples coming back for more over the long term.