Are you in a situation you are not happy with? Have you been in that situation for a long time? If so, why haven’t you done something about the situation? Probably because doing something different would place you at risk of facing something you are afraid of – so you have failed to make a decision.
Most of us fail to make tough decisions because of our fears. The sad result is failure. Failure to be in the pursuit of fulfilling our destiny. Very sad indeed.
Fear is based on pessimistic beliefs about what you are worthy of. If good is coming your way you will be more likely to take that leap and make that hard decision. You are confident that you will be OK even if evil befalls you along the way. If you believe bad is coming your way you will be more likely to hold on to what you have because “a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush”. You will be reluctant to step out of your comfort zone for fear you will lose something or be worse off. If you allow the fear of something bad happening to you you will never take a chance to try a new idea, pursue a dream, end or begin a relationship, move to another country. Do you know what it is when you continue doing the same thing expecting a different outcome? How can you expect a better day if you are not willing to take a leap of faith and move in the direction you are leaning?
If you’ve been stressed by a situation for a long time, it is highly possible that you have been allowing your fears to paralyze you. Certainly there are times when we should wait and do nothing. However, if you are not in the pursuit of your dreams your waiting is evidence of your failure to make a decision.
Admittedly sometimes it is very hard to make a decision. All the options are unappealing. But doing nothing isn’t a good option either. The matter worsens and the negative consequences of indecision mount. You need to make a decision! But to do so you have to believe that there will be a positive outcome for you. You need to believe that God is with you. And that He is guiding you.
I recently made a decision to move from my practice location. It was a very difficult decision because there is so much at stake. Getting paid for one. For many months I considered the option but did nothing. But when I finally made a decision I began looking for a new place. And sure enough, God opened the door and has placed me with some wonderful people. Now it hasn’t been pain free. But I believed that God was guiding me in that direction and that He would be with me. Sure enough, God has done what I expected him to do. He has been with me.
If you are in the valley of decision about something I beg you to make a decision believing that God is with you. Don’t predict evil coming your way – predict good. Know that even in the difficulties you will find in the transition the outcome will be in your favor. Read Romans 8:28.
Here’s a quote that has stayed with me many years throughout my life. It has helped me make many a difficult decision. Hopefully it will help you too.
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets:
Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it.
Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it!”
MAKE A DECISION!
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Author: Joseph Follette
As a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist I have the privilege of talking to people and helping them make positive changes in their lives. I’m glad to be a part of helping people become all that God wants them to be. Don’t hesitate to contact me if you need my services. (256) 850-4426 www.LifestyleTherapyCoach.com Get a copy of my recently published book, “The Sizzle Mindset: Seven Secrets to Keep the Passion Alive in Your Marriage”. BUY NOW