Communication problems are very common in relationships.Especially in young marriages. Conflict ranges from how to do things to how to say things. Couples struggle with different tastes and preferences to different expectations and values.
Too many couples resort to unwise choices to deal with their conflict including violence and divorce. They would benefit from learning to express themselves positively and respectfully and coming up with mutually agreeable solutions.
Marriage is a new experience even if it isn’t your first time around. You have to get to know your spouse and learn how to be married to them. This takes time and often professional help. I’m here to help you experience the love you got together for and teach you how to be successful through each stage of married life.
Love is a terrible thing to waste. Especially when children are involved.
No matter how done you are with your spouse there is hope for your marriage. I’ve had many couples humbled to realize their marriage was spared and they actually felt “in Love” with one another again.
To improve communication and move forward you will need to: Position for change Understand yourself Understand your spouse Understand your marriage Understand Emotions Learn “We-Win” negotiation Know what to focus on Create your marriage plan Celebrate the new marriage you have created
My transformation program includes a 10 week marriage communication course combined with prayer, self-study, therapy, coaching, and group interaction.
Get started transforming your marriage by enrolling in my marriage communication course!
Marriage is built on trust. Without trust you don’t have a marriage. You may just be roommates.
Many couples experience broken trust on the way to the alter and struggle throughout their marriage because of it. Others make bad decisions during the marriage planting seeds of doubt and distrust in the mind of their spouse. Others come to the marriage with distrust and project that onto their faithful spouse only to drive a wedge in the relationship. Unfortunately for many couples they limp along for many years unable to resolve these trust issues.
Rebuilding trust requires a different type of effort from each spouse. The betraying spouse must discontinue the behaviors that led to the distrust and live as an open book with nothing to hide while building self-confidence.
The betrayed spouse must establish measurable behaviors that their spouse can exhibit to build confidence in being trusted again while building self-confidence.
Whether you have been lied to, an affair has occurred, or you just don’t trust people, trust can be rebuilt. Compulsive behaviors can be overcome.
To rebuild trust the couple must achieve several milestones: The betraying spouse takes responsibility for breaking the trust The betrayed spouse is willing to rebuild the marriage Couple improves marriage communication Couple works through discovery and disclosure issues Couple works through the reaction and crisis stage Couple gains understanding and clarity about the breach The betraying spouse offers apology and recommits to the marriage The betrayed spouse accepts apology and recommits to the marriage Couple begins to cooperate and reconnect Couple engages in the rebuilding stage Couple restores Intimacy
My marriage transformation program for couples seeking to rebuild trust includes three courses: Marriage Communication, Affair Recovery for the Betrayer and Affair Recovery for the Betrayed.
Get started rebuilding trust and saving your marriage by enrolling in my marriage communication course.
The sexual relationship in marriage is very complex.
In simplest terms your sexual relationship is a reflection of how well you communicate with one another. Your ability to resolve conflicts and get what you need from each other will be unveiled in your sexual relationship.
Even if there are physiological factors involved, improving your marital communication will improve your marital intimacy even if there are physiological factors involved.
Married couples who go long periods without sex are doing themselves a great disservice. God created sex for the well-being of the man, the woman and the marriage.
Many couples struggle to get in the mood for sex. Others are challenged with issues like Erectile Dysfunction and Vaginismus. A marriage therapist can help a couple work through these issues and get on the same page. It is very important for couples to enjoy a mutually satisfying sex life and not just go through the motions.
To enhance your sexual intimacy and move forward you will need to: Learn how to communicate effectively with each other Establish mutual responsibility for intimacy Identify the barriers to intimacy Understand your marriage Remove the barriers to intimacy Incrementally restore intimacy at a mutually agreeable pace
My marriage transformation program includes two courses: Marriage Communication and Intimacy Restored combined with prayer, self- study, therapy and coaching.
Ready to improve intimacy in your marriage? Enroll in my communication course now.
As creatures of habit it is very difficult to unlearn what you have learned. But what is impossible to us is possible with God!
There are some learned behaviors that are contrary to marriage. This includes a long list of compulsive habits like lying, infidelity, pornography, spending, depression, anxiety, anger, substance abuse, gambling, laziness, gaming, etc. These habits will destroy your marriage.
Many times we are to be directly blamed for these habits. Yet in some cases they are inherited generational curses no fault of our own. Regardless of the source of the bad habit, compulsive behaviors take a priority over the marriage building behaviors and result in a strained love-starved relationship.
Restoring a marriage broken by addiction and bad choices requires recovery from the addiction while rebuilding trust and self-confidence.
Habits can be broken. Broken hearts can be mended. New patterns of thinking and behavior can replace unwanted ones. If you want something different for your life and marriage you simply have to decide to do something different. You must be positioned to face the difficulty inherent in the process of change. Anything worth having is worth working for. What you focus on you cause to happen. You may stutter and stumble to success or you may gain success in one valiant leap. Nothing ventured nothing gained. The genius is in beginning.
The path forward in recovering a marriage from compulsive behaviors includes: Improving communication Addressing the compulsive behavior Replacing the compulsive behavior Rebuilding marital intimacy
My marriage transformation program helps your marriage recover from addiction and compulsive behaviors. It includes the Marriage Communication course, 12 months working through the Couple’s Life Recovery course along with a combination of prayer, self-study, therapy, coaching, and group interaction.
Ready to restore your marriage and recover from the baggage that has been sucking the life out of it. Enroll today in my marriage communication course.
Polls continue to illustrate that only One in Three Americans claim to be very happy.
On the Harris Happiness Index American happiness is on the decline.
SOME people are happier than others. According to their breakdowns, women are happier than men, coming in at 33 to their 29. People whose annual income is between $50,000 and $74,999 are happier than people who earn between $75,000 and $99,999 (32 vs. 30). And people with a college degree are happier (33) than those without (30). The South is the happiest region (32), 65+ is the happiest age group (a whopping 37) and married people are happier (34) than unmarried (28). Having a child under the age of 18 in one's household makes no difference at all. People who are registered to vote are happier than average (32), and so are people who live in the suburbs (also 32).
The reason why so many people are not happy is because they are focusing on the wrong things. External things like people and things will not get you happiness. Happiness is on the inside of you. You must choose to be happy.
The path forward to happiness includes: Appreciating what you have to offer the world. Learning to listen to what’s inside of you. Focusing on the right things.
My transformation program helps you achieve the happiness you desire. You will take an 8 week Happiness course that includes therapy and coaching.
Ready to feel happy? Make an appointment with me and get started today!