Sow the Seeds

You have probably noted the farmers and gardeners are out these days working their fields. The farming cycle is one in which we should pay close attention. Late Fall early Spring farmers begin planting seeds and seedlings in anticipation of a Summer and Fall harvest. We must be careful to do the same thing in our personal lives. While we are not limited to a particular time of year, we should still be intentional about setting a regular schedule of seed sowing in order to produce a harvest of good not only in our lives but in the lives of others. Poverty comes when seeds are not sown, don’t produce a harvest or the harvest is destroyed or taken away. There is not much we can do about a failed harvest or its destruction. But failure to sow seeds is completely on us.
I’m excited to have completed my first book entitled “The Sizzle Mindset: Seven Secrets to Keep the Passion Alive in Your Marriage“. Look out for my next post where I will share with you how to get your copy to enjoy yourself or share with somebody else. I have sown many seeds into this book over the last four years. I have spent my resources of time and money to see this project to fruition. It is a blessing to see this seed emerge from the earth and germinate into, I’m hoping, a great harvest. My hope is that it will feed the hungry soul of couples around the globe who are seeking to make and keep their marriage strong and healthy. This book is an example of sowing seeds.
What seeds have you sown? What harvest are you seeking to reap? What harvests are you reaping right now?
I have other harvests I want to reap. One is spending more time with my family. Another is losing weight. Whatever harvest you are seeking to reap, remember, you must sow the seed first. Certainly God reaps where He has not sown. But He has not designed that we sit around and wait for Him to give us a harvest. We must get out there, do the work, make the sacrifice, and sow the seeds.

What’s Happening at Lifestyle?

Schools almost out and my kids are acting like they are already on summer break. Hats off to all those adults who’ve found a way to find jobs that that allows them to enjoy the academic schedule. “Shout out to my son Jonathan the school teacher and sister Carol the school psychologist.” Maybe one day I’ll enjoy the benefits of working a school schedule and become Professor Follette.

Hopefully this note finds you in good spirits. If not make the decision right now to be in good spirits. It’s a choice you know.

We have several upcoming courses and events we would like to share with you.


For Pastors and Counselors

PastorCounselingYou are invited to attend my upcoming Prepare-Enrich facilitator training. If you do premarital counseling or would like to this assessment is an essential tool for you. It is also a great tool for couples who may be struggling in their relationship and come to you for counseling. They have a new parent assessment that is helpful in aligning two very different parenting styles. This assessment adapts to the various backgrounds and values of the couples taking it. I have been using this test for almost 30 years in my practice and strongly recommend it to any professionals working with couples.

The training is scheduled for Sunday June 26th from 9 to 3 PM. In this workshop you will learn how to administer the assessment and use it in your counseling. I will teach you how to integrate into your ministry.

COURSE: Prepare-Enrich Facilitator Certification
COURSE DATE: June ,26, 2016
REGISTRATION FEE: $70 (Includes the training manual.)
DEADLINE: $265 due by June 19, 2016


For Married Couples

Couple with tabletVIP registration for the free course the ABC’S of Sizzling Hot Marriage is now open. Be one of the first to view this video training I have prepared to encourage couples to turn up the heat in their marriage. In this course I talk about what it takes to have a sizzling hot marriage. Don’t miss out! Did I tell you it’s FREE? Register Here!

SHM Cruise PostcardSpeaking of Sizzling Hot Marriage! What do you think about doing the Sizzling Hot Marriage Cruise next year with me? We are now accepting deposits for this 7 day 3 port Caribbean cruise. Learn More Here!

By the way, if you started therapy but got side-tracked, let me encourage you to make an appointment and get back to it. You need to finish what you started.


For Everybody

Did you know that heart disease is the #1 most preventable cause of death in the United States? What is your risk of getting heart disease? Ask these three simple questions posted by the American Heart Association.

Maintaining a healthy LIFESTYLE is essential element of longevity and well-being.

Claudia Follette, RD/LDN is offering a heart disease risk assessment and remediation class that includes a body composition assessment. Take your health seriously. You are not too young to attend this class.

COURSE: Heart Disease Risk Assessment
COURSE DATE: June 6, 2016 – 6-7:30 PM
REGISTRATION FEE: $20 FREE (Includes the body composition assessment.)
DEADLINE: Pre-register by June 4, 2016


Doggie Massage

A major precursor to disease is poor stress management. Lifestyle is proud to now offer Relaxation Therapy. Using biofeedback therapy you can enjoy a deeply relaxing 15, 20, or 30 minute mechanical shiatsu foot, back and neck massage with calming audio visuals, and aromatherapy. Relaxation therapy is especially for wound up individuals who have a difficult time relaxing and resolving anxious feelings. Relaxation therapy alongside psychotherapy is all you need to to open up and let all your pent up emotions out. Enhance your stress management by getting some valuable nutrition therapy to optimize your health choices. Take your stress and toss it to the wind at Lifestyle Therapy and Coaching. Take advantage of our introductory $10 rate by scheduling a session today. Calm your nerves by taking some time out and away for yourself.

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Why We Don’t Reach Our Goals

I’ve heard many people say they have stopped making New Year’s resolutions because it doesn’t make any difference anyway. Well the truth is that it does make a difference. Setting goals makes a difference. Once you set a goal all of your mind wraps around that goal to move yourself toward the goal. The problem is that we have a tendency to either forget our goal or get discouraged along the way. That is why we don’t reach our goals. We don’t see ourselves any differently. Other’s don’t see us differently as well. What other’s see in us makes a BIG difference in what we see in ourselves. That is why we must keep our goals before us and be around people who believe we can reach those goals. Write them down. Clip out a picture from a magazine and put it on the refrigerator, mirror, or dashboard of your car. Find someone who can remind you and keep you accountable. Get some help. A personal coach can go a long ways to getting where you want to be. Keep your goals before the Lord in prayer. If you keep doing these things you will keep working and moving forward. Anything worthwhile is worth working for. Did you think it would be easy?

It is difficult to change the course that you are already on. The decisions you made yesterday have set you on a path either toward or away from your goals. It is easier to do what you are used to doing. Many goals require that you achieve other goals. You can’t become a neurosurgeon without completing High School. If you chose to skip classes in High School it is going to be tough getting into college. If you want to be a millionaire you need to learn how to live within your means. If you are going to reach your weight loss goal you must learn to deny yourself when you are hungry and eschew the comfort of not exercising. But denying ourselves what we are used to having or doing is uncomfortable. If you are willing to be uncomfortable for a little while you will be able to endure the cravings to go back to the way things were long enough to get used to something different. That is why it is a fatal error to get discouraged when you relapse back into the old behaviors you are trying to get away from. You are almost there. Just because you fell back into the old behavior doesn’t mean you should give up or that you are a hopeless case. The fact that you did it differently for a while lets you know that is what you want to be doing. Just get back on the horse and start riding again. You will get to your destination.

Maybe you started out this year with a goal to get fit, get a different job, get a new attitude or improve a relationship. Just because it is difficult and there are many obstacles is no reason to stop trying. Let me encourage you to keep focused on doing the things it will take to reach your goal. Begin to see yourself successful. Identify the two or three new behaviors you need to be doing to successfully reach your goal. Keep a record so you can see how well you are doing. Stay away from people who will discourage you and get around people who are headed in the same direction. Work smarter by arranging your life around the goal you desire to reach. Never give up! Try Fresh Start as a way to keep your goals in front of you. Its never too late to get started. Its OK to start again. Never give up!