Cell Phone Addiction: Health Effects

Whenever my nephew needs to figure something out, he pulls out his cell phone. He can get from problem to solution in a matter of seconds. As impressive as that would seem for a ten-year-old, I was doing that without a smartphone at the same age — not to brag. Sadly, it seems that thinking has become something you do only when you don’t have the internet close by. That thought leads us to ask, is cell phone addiction becoming normal and almost expected?

Just like any addiction, cell phone addiction can have negative consequences on your life and on those around you. It can affect your emotional, intellectual, and physical health.

Cell Phone Addiction: Health Effects

Here are some ways cell phone addiction can negatively affect you and your family and some tips to fight the addiction:

Cell Phone Addiction: Changing the Learning Process

Our cell phone addiction has turned the learning process on its head. Now, instead of memorizing concepts, we just look them up. Math study apps give us our answers on demand during homework. But back in the day, we memorized the sin and cosine tables. We had to work out a solution. The test was never about if I knew whereto find the answers.

If you notice your cell phone is keeping you from learning, try putting your phone in another room while you work on a project. Sure, you can’t quickly look something up, but it will force you to think something through. You might be surprised by how much you know.

Cell Phone Addiction: Health Effects

Cell Phone Addiction: Shortening Attention Spans

Even when we should be concentrating at work or in a class, we get distracted by our cell phone addiction. We are constantly getting notifications for text messages, games, weather apps, and news apps, and these notification make sure we are always looking at a small screen for a large chunk of the day. Imagine how much of what actually happens around us we miss because of this attention-fuelled gadget.

Enjoying time with family even gets overtaken with our cell phone addiction. Instead of enjoying time together playing a board game, that time has been diverted to staying up to date with social media platforms and reaching new high scores on games. We all know we’ve been to a dinner where we all end up on our smartphones. And there’s always that one person watching football or basketball on their phone giving a play-by-play, and sometimes they’re typing their play-by-play on Twitter and Facebook at the same time. Now if that isn’t a cell phone addiction, I don’t know what is.

At work, having a smartphone next to your laptop keeps the fear of missing out alive, so sometimes you pick it up, right? But if we had to count the number of working hours lost because of cell phone addiction, my bet is it amounts to millions every year.

If you notice your cell phone is getting in the way of your work or family time, try a cell phone cleanse. That means you’ll decide on a set few times each day when you can check your phone for calls or messages, but other than that, your phone is turned off. Try this for a week and watch your ability to get things done improve. A therapist can help you through your addiction and help you track your progress.

Cell Phone Addiction: Health Effects

Cell Phone Addiction: Changing Communication

My niece responds to verbal communication with smiley faces. I would love to have a full conversation with her, but she’s not always so responsive. A side effect of our cell phone addiction is that we’ve stopped talking like we used to. First, we wrote letters, and then we could write emails. They were meaningful and took time to craft. Even instant messenger was a better form of communication because people would sit down and dedicate time to a conversation. But unfortunately, that’s not always the case with texting and cell phone addiction nowadays.

I’ve always been a face to face person and a message that comes from someone standing right in front of me or a message that’s physically passed across a room by being can hold more weight (both literally and figuratively) than a message sent via text. With over 3 billion text messages sent on a daily basis through WhatsApp, many people look to be losing their desire to open their mouths to say something.

If you want to improve your communication skills, try writing a letter or email every once in a while. If you can’t live without texting, try to make your text conversations more meaningful. There’s no reason why we can’t incorporate good communication into a text message.

Cell Phone Addiction: Health Effects

Cell Phone Addiction: Affecting Physical Health

Kids nowadays seem to be looking for something less demanding to spend their time on. You give them the choice between playing a soccer video game on a phone and real soccer, and they want to sit inside and play the cell phone version. But I remember closing off sections of the street and turning that into our stadium. Scores of children would spend holidays sweating and learning team skills.

Very few of us were aware of obesity and a string of diseases, but now, the general health of our children is at its worst. And unless we change how we go about our lives, things are only going to get worse. Cell phone addiction can lead to physical inactivity for children that can be harmful for their physical health.

Is cell phones are getting in the way of physical health, then you might need help from someone else. Maybe a family member or a professional can help you go through your apps and help you decide which ones to delete. Getting rid of time-consuming apps can help you refocus your time and use it on something that will keep you healthy.

Cell Phone Addiction: Health Effects

Cell phone addiction can cause of world of trouble. I mean, when 60% of young people have dropped their cell phone on their face, that shows they’re probably spending too much time on their phone. And when our eyes fixed on a small screen for so long, we miss out on what’s happening around us. So, if you’re addicted to your phone, you have a couple options. You can get some help from a professional, you can decide on a time of day where you put your cell phone away, or you can get rid of your cell phone (but that might not be completely realistic).



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Make a Decision

Are you in a situation you are not happy with? Have you been in that situation for a long time? If so, why haven’t you done something about the situation? Probably because doing something different would place you at risk of facing something you are afraid of – so you have failed to make a decision.

Most of us fail to make tough decisions because of our fears. The sad result is failure. Failure to be in the pursuit of fulfilling our destiny. Very sad indeed.

Fear is based on pessimistic beliefs about what you are worthy of. If good is coming your way you will be more likely to take that leap and make that hard decision. You are confident that you will be OK even if evil befalls you along the way. If you believe bad is coming your way you will be more likely to hold on to what you have because “a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush”. You will be reluctant to step out of your comfort zone for fear you will lose something or be worse off. If you allow the fear of something bad happening to you you will never take a chance to try a new idea, pursue a dream, end or begin a relationship, move to another country. Do you know what it is when you continue doing the same thing expecting a different outcome? How can you expect a better day if you are not willing to take a leap of faith and move in the direction you are leaning?

If you’ve been stressed by a situation for a long time, it is highly possible that you have been allowing your fears to paralyze you. Certainly there are times when we should wait and do nothing. However, if you are not in the pursuit of your dreams your waiting is evidence of your failure to make a decision.

Admittedly sometimes it is very hard to make a decision. All the options are unappealing. But doing nothing isn’t a good option either. The matter worsens and the negative consequences of indecision mount. You need to make a decision! But to do so you have to believe that there will be a positive outcome for you. You need to believe that God is with you. And that He is guiding you.

I recently made a decision to move from my practice location. It was a very difficult decision because there is so much at stake. Getting paid for one. For many months I considered the option but did nothing. But when I finally made a decision I began looking for a new place. And sure enough, God opened the door and has placed me with some wonderful people. Now it hasn’t been pain free. But I believed that God was guiding me in that direction and that He would be with me. Sure enough, God has done what I expected him to do. He has been with me.

If you are in the valley of decision about something I beg you to make a decision believing that God is with you. Don’t predict evil coming your way – predict good. Know that even in the difficulties you will find in the transition the outcome will be in your favor. Read Romans 8:28.

Here’s a quote that has stayed with me many years throughout my life. It has helped me make many a difficult decision. Hopefully it will help you too.

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets:

Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it.
Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it!”

― William Hutchison Murray


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Are You a Hot Head When You Get Angry?

Angry ManI have been engaged in the recent protest that commenced when NFL player Colin Kaepernick took a knee during the national anthem last year. I signed up to help and gotten my kids involved with a very positive mentoring program. The latest talk about all this has to do with our angry president calling for the firing of any player that kneels during the National Anthem. Well today a whole lot of players were kneeling. Well I guess that’s it for the NFL.

All jokes aside. This is no joking matter. If any group in our country suffers we all suffer. We should care about the plight of all people. If not for the grace of God there go I. We should help to relieve suffering. Not be on the side dishing it out.

It just amazed me hearing people defending a flag while demonizing people. The longer I thought about this it dawned on me that this is the human condition. We do the same thing among the people we live and love. In an effort to prove our point we fall short in how we treat our neighbor. We raise our voice in anger and often stoop to using denigrating words which end up destroying the other person. Before you know it words are flying back and forth that are tearing one another down rather than building each other up. Many go way past words to actually inflict physical harm.

How can you say you love me when in anger you hit me? Whether with words, a fist, a scheme or a legislation.

Is being right or having my way more important than the pride and dignity of another person? Shouldn’t we look after the interest of others. The Bible says do unto others as we want them to do unto us. Luke 6:31 We should be careful how we treat others when we are angry. Less we find ourselves learning this lesson the hard way.

We all are guilty of getting angry and disrespecting those we disagree with from time to time. Let us rethink our response to others when in conflict with them. Regardless how passionate you are about an issue, allow the spirit of kindness to temper your retorts and rebukes of others.

If you are a hot and head and have been saying and doing hurtful things to the people you love, don’t hesitate to schedule a treatment planning session with me. I’ll be glad to help you create the new you. One that builds others up rather than tear them down. If you would rather work on your own I found this great course that will walk you though the principles of anger management. Dr. Defoore’s uniquely positive and professional approach make this a great way to put a stop to your angry explosions. Click Here! to learn more.

Faith in God!

Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. Hebrews 11:1

The recent election results have driven protesters to the streets. There is an outcry against the incoming president elect Trump. Wow! It has been a riveting election season indeed. So many incendiary words have been hurled. It will be a while before we recover from this one.  Indeed it would have been strange if the election had ended any other way than it did. It has been a roller coaster ride.

This up and down experience has produced a lot of emotions in me. Now I’m just feeling numb from it all. Many are wondering what do we do now. Well I’ve got the answer for you – have faith. Yes have faith in America. But more than that – have faith in God. In our lifetimes we have seen and experienced many difficult things. God was with us then and He is with us now.

You have a choice to make. Either you will keep it positive or you will go negative. I encourage you to believe, no matter what difficulty you face, that God is with you, God will protect you, God will deliver you and God will direct you. Have Faith in God!

Why We Don’t Reach Our Goals

I’ve heard many people say they have stopped making New Year’s resolutions because it doesn’t make any difference anyway. Well the truth is that it does make a difference. Setting goals makes a difference. Once you set a goal all of your mind wraps around that goal to move yourself toward the goal. The problem is that we have a tendency to either forget our goal or get discouraged along the way. That is why we don’t reach our goals. We don’t see ourselves any differently. Other’s don’t see us differently as well. What other’s see in us makes a BIG difference in what we see in ourselves. That is why we must keep our goals before us and be around people who believe we can reach those goals. Write them down. Clip out a picture from a magazine and put it on the refrigerator, mirror, or dashboard of your car. Find someone who can remind you and keep you accountable. Get some help. A personal coach can go a long ways to getting where you want to be. Keep your goals before the Lord in prayer. If you keep doing these things you will keep working and moving forward. Anything worthwhile is worth working for. Did you think it would be easy?

It is difficult to change the course that you are already on. The decisions you made yesterday have set you on a path either toward or away from your goals. It is easier to do what you are used to doing. Many goals require that you achieve other goals. You can’t become a neurosurgeon without completing High School. If you chose to skip classes in High School it is going to be tough getting into college. If you want to be a millionaire you need to learn how to live within your means. If you are going to reach your weight loss goal you must learn to deny yourself when you are hungry and eschew the comfort of not exercising. But denying ourselves what we are used to having or doing is uncomfortable. If you are willing to be uncomfortable for a little while you will be able to endure the cravings to go back to the way things were long enough to get used to something different. That is why it is a fatal error to get discouraged when you relapse back into the old behaviors you are trying to get away from. You are almost there. Just because you fell back into the old behavior doesn’t mean you should give up or that you are a hopeless case. The fact that you did it differently for a while lets you know that is what you want to be doing. Just get back on the horse and start riding again. You will get to your destination.

Maybe you started out this year with a goal to get fit, get a different job, get a new attitude or improve a relationship. Just because it is difficult and there are many obstacles is no reason to stop trying. Let me encourage you to keep focused on doing the things it will take to reach your goal. Begin to see yourself successful. Identify the two or three new behaviors you need to be doing to successfully reach your goal. Keep a record so you can see how well you are doing. Stay away from people who will discourage you and get around people who are headed in the same direction. Work smarter by arranging your life around the goal you desire to reach. Never give up! Try Fresh Start as a way to keep your goals in front of you. Its never too late to get started. Its OK to start again. Never give up!

How do you know when its time for a change?

It really takes a lot of distraction to avoid making positive changes in your life. God will trouble the water. He will take away your peace and generally make you feel uneasy. However, you can talk yourself out of making the positive changes He is urging. You can distract yourself with this and that. If you are not careful you will miss your opportunity to change and experience the joy of making positive leaps in your life. You will be stuck in the rut you so wish you were not in. You will be full of regrets.

Do you lack confidence in yourself? Have you been reluctant to step outside of your comfort zone and deal with some of the issues facing you? If you are going to build your self-confidence you are going to have to make some tough decisions. Don’t get stuck in analysis paralysis running it over and over in your brain. Trust that God is leading you and take a leap of faith.

How to know God is leading you?

Well for one you need to have a good idea of God’s standards and expectations. He has written his laws in our hearts so we have some strong clues about what is right and what is wrong. However, to really understand God’s will you must become a student of His Word the Holy Bible. A large percentage of time the decisions we have to make have already been covered in the Bible. So if one of your options is contrary to what God has revealed in His Word then you can be sure He is not leading you.

The second way to know if God is leading you is to observe what doors have closed and what doors have opened. God will reveal himself in providence. Those occurrences that you can’t attribute to any other source than Him. I was teaching in group this evening and He led me to a text that was perfect for the discussion. It was not a scripture on the top of my mind. He set it right in front of me. God will make his way plain before you. If you are not so busy trying to have things your way you will be able to see and hear him. If you close your mouth, open your eyes and your ears you will begin seeing God provide for you. He will give you plenty of evidence to make a good decision.

A third way to know when God is leading is evaluating the peace you have with the options before you. God will trouble your spirit when you are headed in the wrong direction. You can either try to ignore these promptings of God’s Spirit or learn to quickly submit. Down deep in my gut I can sense when I’m headed in the wrong direction. God troubles my spirit when I’m tempted to do wrong. It won’t go away. It is like God continues to knock on the door in the wee hours of the morning refusing to allow me to drown out his voice. I don’t like to feel that uneasy feeling so I’ve always sought to move toward God rather than away from Him.

Another way of knowing when God is leading is to note the obstacles that suddenly present themselves when you are deciding to move toward God. The devil shows up to discourage you. This is a clear sign you are headed in the right direction. Just when you plan to leave that job your car breaks down. You might be tempted to get discouraged and stay at the job to pay for the car. But if God told you to make a move then you are being disobedient. Don’t allow the difficulties Satan throws your way thwart you from stepping out in faith and moving toward God. Let those challenges be affirmations that God is with you.

A final way of knowing if God is leading is to evaluate your level of peace after you made the decision. If you made the decision and you are still troubled then you probably made the wrong decision. Even if the decision creates a storm it can bring you peace when you know it was indeed the way God was leading. In fact if you have decided to move toward God you will know that you had no other choice than to make that decision.


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