What do you practice?

My sister fowarded me this profound video today that was so remarkable I had to share it with my readers. Let me know what you think.


Are you doing the right things in your marriage? Sizzle Mindset: Seven Secrets to Keep the Passion Alive in Your Marriage has been written to encourage couples to focus on what really matters to keep things sizzling hot in their marriage.

Ready to take your marriage to the next level? The How to Stop Arguing and Build a Happy Marriage Course will take you there.

Make a Decision

Are you in a situation you are not happy with? Have you been in that situation for a long time? If so, why haven’t you done something about the situation? Probably because doing something different would place you at risk of facing something you are afraid of – so you have failed to make a decision.

Most of us fail to make tough decisions because of our fears. The sad result is failure. Failure to be in the pursuit of fulfilling our destiny. Very sad indeed.

Fear is based on pessimistic beliefs about what you are worthy of. If good is coming your way you will be more likely to take that leap and make that hard decision. You are confident that you will be OK even if evil befalls you along the way. If you believe bad is coming your way you will be more likely to hold on to what you have because “a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush”. You will be reluctant to step out of your comfort zone for fear you will lose something or be worse off. If you allow the fear of something bad happening to you you will never take a chance to try a new idea, pursue a dream, end or begin a relationship, move to another country. Do you know what it is when you continue doing the same thing expecting a different outcome? How can you expect a better day if you are not willing to take a leap of faith and move in the direction you are leaning?

If you’ve been stressed by a situation for a long time, it is highly possible that you have been allowing your fears to paralyze you. Certainly there are times when we should wait and do nothing. However, if you are not in the pursuit of your dreams your waiting is evidence of your failure to make a decision.

Admittedly sometimes it is very hard to make a decision. All the options are unappealing. But doing nothing isn’t a good option either. The matter worsens and the negative consequences of indecision mount. You need to make a decision! But to do so you have to believe that there will be a positive outcome for you. You need to believe that God is with you. And that He is guiding you.

I recently made a decision to move from my practice location. It was a very difficult decision because there is so much at stake. Getting paid for one. For many months I considered the option but did nothing. But when I finally made a decision I began looking for a new place. And sure enough, God opened the door and has placed me with some wonderful people. Now it hasn’t been pain free. But I believed that God was guiding me in that direction and that He would be with me. Sure enough, God has done what I expected him to do. He has been with me.

If you are in the valley of decision about something I beg you to make a decision believing that God is with you. Don’t predict evil coming your way – predict good. Know that even in the difficulties you will find in the transition the outcome will be in your favor. Read Romans 8:28.

Here’s a quote that has stayed with me many years throughout my life. It has helped me make many a difficult decision. Hopefully it will help you too.

“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets:

Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it.
Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it!”

― William Hutchison Murray


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Are you doing the right things in your marriage? Sizzle Mindset: Seven Secrets to Keep the Passion Alive in Your Marriage has been written to encourage couples to focus on what really matters to keep things sizzling hot in their marriage.

Ready to take your marriage to the next level? The How to Stop Arguing and Build a Happy Marriage Course will take you there.

What Happened to Getting My Physical Needs Met in Marriage?

For many couples their marriage is a source of strength and vitality. For others, their marriage looks a lot like the chaos and confusion going on in governments around the world. It’s hard to tell what the real agenda is. If you and your spouse are facing chaos in your marriage, keep reading. Continue reading What Happened to Getting My Physical Needs Met in Marriage?

Faith in God!

Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. Hebrews 11:1

The recent election results have driven protesters to the streets. There is an outcry against the incoming president elect Trump. Wow! It has been a riveting election season indeed. So many incendiary words have been hurled. It will be a while before we recover from this one.  Indeed it would have been strange if the election had ended any other way than it did. It has been a roller coaster ride.

This up and down experience has produced a lot of emotions in me. Now I’m just feeling numb from it all. Many are wondering what do we do now. Well I’ve got the answer for you – have faith. Yes have faith in America. But more than that – have faith in God. In our lifetimes we have seen and experienced many difficult things. God was with us then and He is with us now.

You have a choice to make. Either you will keep it positive or you will go negative. I encourage you to believe, no matter what difficulty you face, that God is with you, God will protect you, God will deliver you and God will direct you. Have Faith in God!

What’s Happening at Lifestyle?

Schools almost out and my kids are acting like they are already on summer break. Hats off to all those adults who’ve found a way to find jobs that that allows them to enjoy the academic schedule. “Shout out to my son Jonathan the school teacher and sister Carol the school psychologist.” Maybe one day I’ll enjoy the benefits of working a school schedule and become Professor Follette.

Hopefully this note finds you in good spirits. If not make the decision right now to be in good spirits. It’s a choice you know.

We have several upcoming courses and events we would like to share with you.


For Pastors and Counselors

PastorCounselingYou are invited to attend my upcoming Prepare-Enrich facilitator training. If you do premarital counseling or would like to this assessment is an essential tool for you. It is also a great tool for couples who may be struggling in their relationship and come to you for counseling. They have a new parent assessment that is helpful in aligning two very different parenting styles. This assessment adapts to the various backgrounds and values of the couples taking it. I have been using this test for almost 30 years in my practice and strongly recommend it to any professionals working with couples.

The training is scheduled for Sunday June 26th from 9 to 3 PM. In this workshop you will learn how to administer the assessment and use it in your counseling. I will teach you how to integrate into your ministry.

COURSE: Prepare-Enrich Facilitator Certification
COURSE DATE: June ,26, 2016
REGISTRATION FEE: $70 (Includes the training manual.)
DEADLINE: $265 due by June 19, 2016
REGISTRATION URL: prepare.lifestyletherapycoach.com


For Married Couples

Couple with tabletVIP registration for the free course the ABC’S of Sizzling Hot Marriage is now open. Be one of the first to view this video training I have prepared to encourage couples to turn up the heat in their marriage. In this course I talk about what it takes to have a sizzling hot marriage. Don’t miss out! Did I tell you it’s FREE? Register Here!

SHM Cruise PostcardSpeaking of Sizzling Hot Marriage! What do you think about doing the Sizzling Hot Marriage Cruise next year with me? We are now accepting deposits for this 7 day 3 port Caribbean cruise. Learn More Here!

By the way, if you started therapy but got side-tracked, let me encourage you to make an appointment and get back to it. You need to finish what you started.


For Everybody

Did you know that heart disease is the #1 most preventable cause of death in the United States? What is your risk of getting heart disease? Ask these three simple questions posted by the American Heart Association.

Maintaining a healthy LIFESTYLE is essential element of longevity and well-being.

Claudia Follette, RD/LDN is offering a heart disease risk assessment and remediation class that includes a body composition assessment. Take your health seriously. You are not too young to attend this class.

COURSE: Heart Disease Risk Assessment
COURSE DATE: June 6, 2016 – 6-7:30 PM
REGISTRATION FEE: $20 FREE (Includes the body composition assessment.)
DEADLINE: Pre-register by June 4, 2016


Doggie Massage

A major precursor to disease is poor stress management. Lifestyle is proud to now offer Relaxation Therapy. Using biofeedback therapy you can enjoy a deeply relaxing 15, 20, or 30 minute mechanical shiatsu foot, back and neck massage with calming audio visuals, and aromatherapy. Relaxation therapy is especially for wound up individuals who have a difficult time relaxing and resolving anxious feelings. Relaxation therapy alongside psychotherapy is all you need to to open up and let all your pent up emotions out. Enhance your stress management by getting some valuable nutrition therapy to optimize your health choices. Take your stress and toss it to the wind at Lifestyle Therapy and Coaching. Take advantage of our introductory $10 rate by scheduling a session today. Calm your nerves by taking some time out and away for yourself.

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