One of the most painful revelations is that your spouse or significant other has been involved with another person. The experience of getting found out is traumatic for everyone involved. Once what has happened comes out in the open everything changes. Many report a reduction of stress no longer having to keep the secret. Unfortunately that stress is transferred directly to the offended spouse.
Recovering from an affair is fraught with a multiplicity of landmines. As an addiction, an affair is a clinical issue. In addiction, the offended spouse is may stricken with anxiety, depression or Posttraumatic Stress Disorder. It is really important to get professional help to work through these issues. Many couples make it through the affair but they live their lives shackled to the hurt and mistrust that arose from the affair throughout the rest of their marriage. An affair is an opportunity to address all of the issues individually and relationally that led to the affair in the first place. It is an opportunity for change.
If you want to save your marriage and have a better marriage, and be better people – schedule an appointment today.
How the Program Works
Most people are a little apprehensive about beginning therapy. Those who have had an affair or are engaged in sexual acting out behaviors find it particularly difficult to open up about what they have done. There is a lot of shame, embarrassment and pride standing in the way of admitting to others the wrongs committed. But most of my clients realize after their first session that therapy isn’t bad at all. They even come to a point of enjoying group – when they thought they never would.
The affair recovery process doesn’t come with a particular time frame. Couples and individuals are in the program as long as they need to be until they have reached their goals. Those who have diagnosed disorders and addictions may stay in therapy longer than others. The treatment program includes weekly individual, couple and group sessions. There is homework and assignments. You get out of this what you put in.
Couples are admitted in the program who have dealt with emotional and sexual affairs, pornography and sexting, or whenever there has been a serious erosion of trust as a result of infidelity. This program helps individuals restore their dignity and couples preserve their relationship. Sexual deviance is very difficult to overcome in marital relationships because just as difficult it is for the one acting out sexually to stop it is difficult for the hurt spouse to forgive and regain trust. Treatment is essential to navigate the difficult terrain of recovering together. Many couples survive sexual deviance but never restore their relationship. It is possible to have a vibrant and fulfilling marriage post affair with proper treatment.
Maintaining a healthy sexual relationship in marriage is no small task. Marriage requires the ability to negotiate and compromise. It requires personal growth. So many are unprepared for the rigors of marriage and find themselves seeking out others to meet their companionship and sexual needs. Simply learning the essentials of communication and conflict resolution would tremendously reduce the numbers of premature sexual engagement and ultimate relationship breakups.
There are seven stages to recovery from infidelity.
- Restoring Trust
- Rebuilding Companionship
In the Lifestyle program, couples work through these levels utilizing the tools of assessment, marriage therapy, individual therapy and group therapy. This intensive outpatient treatment program utilizes cognitive behavior therapy, family systems therapy, motivational interviewing and the 12 Step approach to recovery. Change occurs with personal development and interpersonal skill development. Both individuals have a lot of work to do on themselves to work through an affair or sexual addiction.
Call (256) 850-4426 or schedule online for a Treatment Planning Session to get started on overcoming a sex addiction and restoring your marriage today!