One of the most painful revelations is that your spouse or significant other has been involved with another person. The experience of getting found out is traumatic for everyone involved. Once what has happened comes out in the open everything changes. Many report a reduction of stress no longer having to keep the secret. Unfortunately that stress is transferred directly to the offended spouse.
Recovering from an affair is fraught with a multiplicity of landmines. As an addiction, an affair is a clinical issue. In addiction, the offended spouse is may stricken with anxiety, depression or Posttraumatic Stress Disorder. It is really important to get professional help to work through these issues. Many couples make it through the affair but they live their lives shackled to the hurt and mistrust that arose from the affair throughout the rest of their marriage. An affair is an opportunity to address all of the issues individually and relationally that led to the affair in the first place. It is an opportunity for change.
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How the Program Works
Most people are a little apprehensive about beginning therapy. Those who have had an affair or are engaged in sexual acting out behaviors find it particularly difficult to open up about what they have done. There is a lot of shame, embarrassment and pride standing in the way of admitting to others the wrongs committed. But most of my clients realize after their first session that therapy isn’t bad at all. They even come to a point of enjoying group – when they thought they never would.
The affair recovery process doesn’t come with a particular time frame. Couples and individuals are in the program as long as they need to be until they have reached their goals. Those who have diagnosed disorders and addictions may stay in therapy longer than others. The treatment program includes weekly individual, couple and group sessions. There is homework and assignments. You get out of this what you put in.
Couples are admitted in the program who have dealt with emotional and sexual affairs, pornography and sexting, or whenever there has been a serious erosion of trust as a result of infidelity.