Many couples face issues in marriage that lead them to a place where the relationship is questioned. It could be due to natural family transitions such as becoming new parents, or having children leave “the nest”. Or, it could happen as a result of infidelity, substance abuse, loss of a child, or any number of unfortunate issues. Regardless of the cause, many couples find themselves struggling with adjustment and changes. If the marriage does not have a strong and stable foundation, these struggles can lead to irreversible damage, possibly divorce.
Marriage counseling (also known as couple’s therapy) has been shown to be beneficial as it can help couples learn to resolve conflicts, communicate their needs, gain a deeper understanding of their partner, and reconnect in a way to strengthen the relationship and add joy back into the marriage.Children benefit when their parents seek counseling for marital issues as it reduces the tension in the home, and creates a more loving environment conducive to positive growth. Children also learn what it’s like to be married by watching their parents interact as a couple. If marital difficulties outweigh marital happiness, the children will not only suffer over the division, they will gain a distorted view of what marriage is all about.
Although marriage has its ups and downs, there are a few signs that indicate a more serious issue is at hand and professional counseling should be considered. Some of these indicators are:
Although statistics indicate that divorce is common for half the couples who marry for the first time, “significant data exists which support the efficacy of family and couples therapy and that there is no evidence indicating that couples are harmed when they undergo treatment” (Friedlander, 1997)1. Furthermore, studies have shown that 75% of couples receiving therapy for marital distress were better off and reported significant improvements than those not receiving professional help.
A marriage counselor is a professional trained to help couples address issues that are affecting their relationship. He/she may use one of several different approaches, depending on what problems the couple is experiencing. Whatever the therapy, the goals will be to help the couple understand one nother and improve their communication skills. Watch these couples in therapy…
Some couples find it difficult to begin marriage therapy simply because they feel there is no hope for their marriage. Others fear expressing their problems to a stranger. These factors are taken into consideration by the therapist who will work with the couple to create a comfortable environment for both of you.
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